Surrogacy in NZ: How the process works, and the family campaigning to update the law

For many Kiwis, the surrogacy process is profoundly challenging.

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For many Kiwis, the surrogacy process is profoundly challenging. Sinead Corcoran Dye tells her story, and talks to the Kiwi couple advocating for a law change. The first time I threw up I was delighted.

I went through IVF to get pregnant , and vomiting was the first sign that the months of being poked and prodded and injecting myself daily had been worth it. A touch of morning sickness was a small price to pay for knowing a baby was on the way. The sickness got worse.



I don’t know why it’s called “morning” sickness as the nausea and vomiting lasted from the moment I woke to last thing before I went to sleep. Friends were sympathetic - just hang on, they said, the first trimester can be tough but after that it gets better. The first trimester passed, but the sickness did not.

The only thing I could hold down was frozen cola and even that not every time. I couldn’t get off the sofa, let alone leave the house. I was losing weight and my skin was grey.

My husband decided to count how many times I threw up in a day. One day was 24. My obstetrician was concerned but reassuringly the growing baby was doing fine, he said.

Sometimes morning sickness stays around for the second trimester and I just needed to hang in there, he said. I hung in there. The third trimester brought no relief.

In fact, it got worse. The repeated vomiting caused agonising rib flare. My teeth became damaged.

I was incontinent and had to wear adult nappies, and every 48 hours I had to go to hospital to.