Surrogacy in NZ: How the process works, and the family campaigning to update the law

For many Kiwis, the surrogacy process is profoundly challenging.


For many Kiwis, the surrogacy process is profoundly challenging. Sinead Corcoran Dye tells her story, and talks to the Kiwi couple advocating for a law change. The first time I threw up I was delighted.

I went through IVF to get pregnant , and vomiting was the first sign that the months of being poked and prodded and injecting myself daily had been worth it. A touch of morning sickness was a small price to pay for knowing a baby was on the way. The sickness got worse.

I don’t know why it’s called “morning” sickness as the nausea and vomiting lasted from the moment I woke to last thing before I went to sleep. Friends were sympathetic - just hang on, they said, the first trimester can be tough but after that it gets better. The first trimester passed, but the sickness did not.

The only thing I could hold down was frozen cola and even that not every time. I couldn’t get off the sofa, let alone leave the house. I was losing weight and my skin was grey.

My husband decided to count how many times I threw up in a day. One day was 24. My obstetrician was concerned but reassuringly the growing baby was doing fine, he said.

Sometimes morning sickness stays around for the second trimester and I just needed to hang in there, he said. I hung in there. The third trimester brought no relief.

In fact, it got worse. The repeated vomiting caused agonising rib flare. My teeth became damaged.

I was incontinent and had to wear adult nappies, and every 48 hours I had to go to hospital to.